Have you ever received exactly what you were wishing for, only to realize it still wasn't quite enough?
And so, shortly thereafter, the quest for "happiness, pleasure, meaning and fulfillment” began in earnest once again.
Such is the hedonic treadmill of humanity, which goes something like this:
- Want more.
- Get what you want.
- Become bored with what you now have.
- Want something different, with even more “wow”.
We always seem to be saying… so, what’s next?
But the thing is, “more” is never enough—any addict can confirm this.
We’ve become addicted with distracting ourselves from ourselves. What an odd predicament to be in! It’s nothing less than an acknowledgement of our very own self-loathing—we literally can’t stand to spend time alone with ourselves.
And so, we’re then left with being forever unsettled, because we’re just too damn anxious to sit still and be alone with our feelings and thoughts. We’re too fearful of what we’ll find… insight into the inner workings of our mind! (including the ugly truth behind all of our ugly and ill-begotten behaviours).
We’re forever trying to eliminate the quiet moments from our lives, because that’s exactly where our discomfort resides. And so, before we’ve even finished whatever it is that we’re presently doing, we’ve already mentally moved on to plan, wish, or crave for the next desirable thing.
More food, more drink, more television, more shopping, more collecting, more entertainment, more sports, more socializing, more exercise, more work, more glitz, more glitter, more money—more, more, more!
It’s clear that we’ve become addicted to collecting things—including experiences. We mistakenly believe that our memories and possessions will somehow comfort us.
But such things will never fill the empty void within us.
Whatever you resist will eventually catch up with you, including any postponed pain you’ve swept under the rug with your every distraction and denial.
Quit continually jumping from one thing to the next—you’ll never truly be able to relax and be happy if you’re always in such a frantic and anxious state.
Be still. Allow yourself some time to decompress and to absorb the stillness that can be found within every moment, no matter where you are. It’s always within you. In fact, this stillness IS you. This is your true Self. It’s an expansive spaciousness —imbued with nothing but peace, love and happiness— that’s waiting to be self-realized.
Busyness is not something to be bragged about, nor should it placed upon a pedestal as some sort of higher achievement (as is the case with our current culture).
Busyness is a symptom of an ignored inner-awareness and a confused sense of self, one that's aching to be self-realized.
Unfold your anxious discontent. Begin by simply allowing yourself to be bored—see for yourself that it’s nothing to be feared. In fact, there’s fascination to be found —you only need to take the time to observe, investigate, and inquire within.
Once you become comfortable in the stillness of your very own quietude, you’ll find that it’s actually impossible to be bored—there’s only wonder, astonishment and awe to be found—the bliss of your fully-conscious, undistracted Being.